Relationship advice??

Ask Dr Joy -Yes I am such an expert...hmmm... (I've never had a relationship last more than um...ah... 7 weeks!) but I love reading relationship advice books! Soooo I found it hilarious when i came across a book called "Fit to be tied" on a certain persons bookshelf the other week, so took it upon myself to read it and get informed on what makes you "Fit" to tie the knot. And all I can say is it is quite scarey! Don't let this put u off marriage tho - i don't want to be the one to blame!

Some interesting quotes I'd love to share with you:

"The most miserable people in the world are not single people. They are married people who realise that their marriage was a mistake. Think how frustrating it must be to spend years trying to make an impossible situation work. Think how much energy it must take to keep a doomed relationship going" eeek! Ok I am scared!!! I hope that never happens to any of us! Choose carefully who you marry, make sure you don't marry for the wrong reasons!

The writer noted at a conference they went to where there were many couples in their 50's and 60's, that many of the men were unusually attentive towards their wives. So he asked a guy who said "This is my second wife. During my first marriage I was too preoccupied with climbing the corporate ladder to pay attention to my wife . I hurt her deeply for many years, and finally she couldn't take it anymore. Now i'm doing things differently. I may have forfeited my first wife, but I'm not going to foul things up again." ....hmmm interesting huh? He goes on to say that men don't mean to hurt their wives.

And then they add a quote from Dr Cloud from the Boundaries book "As an adult, you have choices. Take responsiblity for them and own them. If you are giving something, you at some level are making a choice to do it; stop acting as if others make you give to them. If you are working somewhere that you do not like, take responsiblity for finding something else. If you are criticised by a friend, take responsiblity for the fact that you agree to meet with him or her. You are responsible for what you choose to do. You can change your life by refusing to play victim" Interesting huh! I'm sure we can all apply that one to our lives.